As you may logically expect, that’s typically the first thing I say
when I meet a new client. And I have great deal of respect for a
client’s perception of the facts. They are entitled to and I give them
the benefit of the doubt. The so-called ''indubio pro reo'', hehe...
However, when I was a young, green and naïve lawyer I often put tremendous
faith in those client perceptions. But get whiplashed a few times in a
deposition or a courtroom and/or a business meeting, and you learn to
trust, but verify. The older I get the more I realise how easy it is for
some folks to fall into that same trap of assuming things are the way
they are just because people say they are.
How often have you asked someone, “Hey, do you know Bob?” (or Chris or Irene or whomever…) and then made assumptions and decisions based upon the response with no further thought or inquiry. Most of us have gotten that phone call or email or text with a juicy tidbit about an acquaintance or a colleague and couldn’t hang up and dial another fellow fast enough with the scoop. I’ve done it, certainly. It’s human nature and it’s inevitable. And like Captain Renault in Rick’s Casablanca casino, I am shocked that people form opinions about others based purely upon conjecture, rumour and innuendo. Shocked, I say.
But my many years, personal experiences and particularly my profession have impressed upon me that while it may be human nature and it may be inevitable, it’s still wrong. And it can sting.
At the risk of over-thinking this thing, the next time you hear a juicy tidbit about something or someone else, I ask you to pause a minute and ask them, “How do you know?” or “Did you see her do it?”, “Did you hear him say it?”, “Were you even there?” Carpenters call it “measuring twice and cutting once.”
In my case, I'm the sort of person, who believes and relies upon hard evidence, Facta non Verba Shall speak me. Seem like words to live by....